Flashback: Pain or Relief!

Do we really remember being a child? Do we really remember what we were like, and the things we did. Yes we do remember but those memories don't generally occurs to you. Flashbacks from childhood are really different, i would say memory is very immature, they will activate your emotional state perhaps the emotion seems to be related to what is going on with you at present. Flashbacks are sudden and vivid memories of past personal experiences, generally it is linked with traumatic events. In my cases its been extremely effective psychologically but at this stage i have attached these flashbacks events as part of my life which i cant get over.

You know what at such an adolescence age when suddenly you realize that you are an adult, we go into the phases of meeting new circumstances and at rush to explore the new beginning we tend to do such things which eventually lead to either regret in life and in present "regrets of past" or even few cherishing moments. These stay with us for lifetime because memories are not perishable. Tell me do we cherish our flashbacks or its a regret or curse, is it pain or relief?

Believe me or not its a main reason to stress, two to three years back this stress has so much of effect on me that it was uncontrollable for me to eat, sleep, talk neither i wanted to be alone at that time but i only used to curse myself for all bad reason of being helpless or useless,it is so much effective on ones feeling...that it changes the character and body language of oneself...Our body is controlled by our emotions by what our brain perceive and these flashbacks especially in today's world of extremist be it in profession or personal life you definitely will loose yourself because of past experiences but very few move on or very few people become a better person.

I know its not easy but its true that these flashbacks are not curable or i would not say its a pain..i consider nowadays a relief because i am a person who thinks with heart, showers plurality of love to person who loves me but developed my brain to be mentally strong and deal with circumstances that it does not effect your heart and soul. Everyday i wake-up pat myself and tell that no matter what you are good human being with a good heart and is not going to repeat the mistake which hurt your dignity and integrity.

At this age after, so many people went through sexual abuse, physical abuse, emotional abuse etc etc. which lead to depression, stress, obsession etc. Due to the strong emotions and uncontrollable nature of flashbacks, individuals may find it difficult to carry out everyday activities eventually it deteriorate the quality of your present life as it may turn to develop mood issues, or you will develop an anxiety problem.

Why can't we just accept our mistakes and don't repeat it. some wont change themselves and will continue to make the same mistakes and tell themselves that they don't care about the society..i feel they are the biggest coward, they believe it or not they are part of the society, these reasons one give to themselves to find an easy way out to continue to compromise and live without dignity and integrity and so that these flashbacks never hurt them but dear you are not going long way..and some people accept there mistake but because of fear of these flashbacks, it caught up an individual with feelings of helplessness, powerlessness, confusion even an emotional distressful person sometimes or want to scream, cry, show fear of losing or will do something that might lead to shame and embarrassment after the scene which may effect your current relation be it family or friend and damage your self-esteem. Believe me you don't want these stage to come in your life because after this, ask me its very tough and its not easy to curb the situation.

I have been in all stages of these and to be truthful isolating myself did helped me to figure out the correct way to deal with it, first accept your life and accept that past cant be changed. Remembering the flashback is not a solution but recognizing the depth of it is, escape is not easy sometimes you even relate smell, touch, or vibes of the present with the flashbacks but no its just in your mind to thing like that, it helped me to find myself the kind of person i was, i will not say i am the same 100% but yah i am close to it.

PS: Being patient within oneself throughout your life is not what you want. Your value doesn't decrease based on someones inability to see good in you.